I must say that for the most part, I stand by my word, the only way I don't is that it is completely out of my control. My grandfather always told me your word is your bond. Back in his day people simply gave their word shook hands and the deal was done. However, we have come so far, but I feel we have digressed just as much. In so many things we give our word on contracts and the courts are so busy because people have to drag us there to do what we said we would do.
For instance we stand before God and man and say wedding vows that mean squat. Because how many of us bounce when the going gets rough? We neglect God and the fact that we made the vow. We enter into marriage the way we do contracts lightly praying for a loop hole and some mistaken clause that will make our vow null and void.
We give birth to children and pawn them off on others to care for or get mad when the government won't aid us in taking care of children they didn't ask us to have and kids we, let's be real often times had carelessly. Why because we thought we were in love are we didn't practice safe sex. Sex that we shouldn't have been having because we had no legal right too. What is the legal right. The legal right is the marriage bed. Other than that you are out of order and out of the will of God.
We then go and try to fix all this stuff that we have done as my sister said in her word which I will surely share by meddling. But we are walking around saying I am trusting God, oh I have faith. Do you really, I know when you are going through it's hard to sit and do nothing. These have been the hardest 6 months for me, because I am normally on it. As soon as you speak it I am on it. God is teaching me to be still and trust Him. He has stayed my hand and because I have truly listened in one aspect He has been obligated to do what He said, He said that He would never forsake us. He has sent help in different forms from different people but I can tell you what lack has not touched this house. Have I opened my mouth when He said be quiet, oh yeah. I have had to eat crow so many times. I have had to go back and say I am sorry to people and God, people who wronged me and rightly deserved the tongue lashing I gave and some worse. However, I was wrong in saying one word because God has told me this battle is not yours it's mine.
If I am going to trust Him then I have to trust, Him. When I start trying to help Him, I am showing doubt, I saying God you need to come on so let me help you. He has already told me His word shall not return to Him void so why am I trying to help Him? I'll tell you it's because so many of us are living in dysfunction and we have gotten so comfortable in it, we think it's okay to ask God to bless us in our mess.
Everyday you wake up God gives you unmerited Grace, Mercy and Favor. No we didn't earn it because we all fall short daily, we don't deserve it for the same reason. Everyday His prayer is that we will Trust Him enough to truly place our lives in His hands, to turn from our wicked ways and seek His face. If we are not willing to do that it's no sense in praying. I mean why get on your knees and pour out your hearts desire and get up and climb into bed with someone that you aren't married too. Why get on your knees and pray and walk out the house stand on the corner and make fast money. Why? He clearly says that if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and turn from their wicked ways. It's conditional we do this and He does His part.
I can truly say that being still and quiet is hard. There are times when I want to help,Him because He ain't moving at Shon's speed. Then I am reminded that my time is not His and nor or my ways His ways. Cuz truth be told I could have it made in the shade or so I think if I did it my way. Let me put it another way, I would always be getting paid. But guess what I am still here, still standing, not in lack, because I am giving God my time, actually trusting Him and when things get to rough I call Him into remembrance of His word.
So trust Him if you going to trust Him, have faith if you are going to have faith. But stop just giving Him lip service He's not pleased. We need to be doers of the word. Build your hope and trust on things eternal Hold on to His unchanging hand.
So I don't know who this is for, but you got to walk out that mess that you are in. The only thing stopping you is you, and yes things will get better instantly. Now the devil will have you to believe that things will get rougher and it may seem harder, but guess what we serve a God who is not a man. Don't let the fact that you have been in it so long hold you in it another day. Walk out of it, and don't look back. Walk out on Faith that God will do just what He said He will do. Your walking is first required and watch Him move. Don't let guilt keep you in it, don't let what if, keep you in, don't let what people say keep you in it. Move now. People are going to talk either way. But I would rather them say look at what God did for their obedience than look at this mess.
I can promise you as people leave God will send new ones and expose some that need to be. I don't call names as not offend but I am so grateful for my sisters that God has placed in my life at this time. I have not had to involve family, because when all is well family will still be mad and truth be told sometimes friends are like that, but this group (core) of ladies are so grounded in the word, they have been my help. I have one that will call me to the carpet so fast my head spins. I have one that scolds me and says you'll go sit down really quick. I have one that gets quiet and drops to her knees on me, but they all back up what they tell me with love and with the word. SO I know that it's not them but the God in them that's at work.
I am Blessed to be a Blessing,
Shon Garner Cole follow my blog at realtalkwithshon@blogspot.com.
P.S. Below is a word from my sister, my prayer partner, my keep me grounded sister.
MAKING A BAD SITUATION WORSE--
My baby girl, age 11, experienced her first pimple bump, positioned perfectly, on the right side of her face, about an inch underneath the eye. Using motherly wisdom, I warned her not to pick at it because, it was too soon, and it could make it worse. When she came home from school the next day, there was a noticeable change in the blemish. What started out as a small, red bump, had now turned into a sore. She was devastated. Without caring how hideous she looked, she was putting band-aids on it, and applying globs of cocoa butter on it. Sounds familiar?
Have you ever had a small problem/situation that you were faced with—carelessly, you approached it the wrong way, and made it worse? Then, found yourself trying to bandage it up, and apply soothing creams on it, to make it feel better, or to reverse the bigger mess you’ve created. This could be as simple as a small bump, but for most of us, it’s life—our finances, marriages, friendships, raising our kids, our bodies, our health, ministries, goals, etc. And for those of us that understand the power of words, we don’t even have to put our hands on a situation to make it worse, we can just speak the wrong things regarding it, our lives, and things/people attached to us.
Sarah is a prime example of meddling—trying to fix a problem in her own way, and making a bad situation worse. I’m sure she thought to herself a million times, “What on earth have I done?” Every time she turned around, there it was; a reminder of what she had done. But in the end, God fixed it.
We can’t change what has already been done, but I’m confident, that there is absolutely nothing too hard for God, and he can definitely clean up, heal, and undo, some of the things we’ve done. However, from this point forward, we have to learn to be careful in how we approach a situation. Be careful what we do, and most importantly, watch the words that we speak, regarding our situations, and our lives.
Some things are just not for us to mess with, but in the result that we do, it’s not the end of the world. Although we can’t fix it, God can. Is there anything too hard for God—even the messes that we make for ourselves? Absolutely not!
I’m a true believer that this is what God meant by: And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. (Romans 8:28 NLT) Yes, even what we consider bad, and mess-ups, God can use for a bigger and better purpose, and for His Glory! “I can see Him saying, she messed up, but I can use that later. Uh-oh, she messed up again, I can use that too!” Only God can make a mess, a message, and bless someone by it.
Disclaimer: Sometimes the consequences of our actions, leaves an everlasting blemish. These lessons should be used as testimonies for others. Don’t you remember someone older telling you that they are telling you this, to keep you from making the same mistakes as they did? Right; it’s a learning experience. So, don’t be sad about it, use it to help someone else.
Stay Hopeful,
Clarissa
http://alightofhopeinspirations.wordpress.com/2011/12/14/making-a-bad-situation-worse/
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